二月五(日)
各方朋友:
幾些兒忘記了怎樣打字,是時刻向大家可能說人生再見的時刻,不要怕,多謝家人姐姐、太太、母父、妹弟及女兒,多謝一切人生經的事物,不一亙足。
再見了,有機會再見!
趙來發
這數天特別多謝林敏怡姐的關心,還有銅人療法幫助,謝謝!
這個時候實在沒有需要論斷趙生的治療決定對錯與否罷? 每個人走的路都不同, 其他人所知有限, 想法都是從自己角度出發。 愛護趙生的親友當然想他長命百歲,但他的生死都是他的, 無論旁人如何心痛緊張。 Able to feel is good : |
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Unfortunately in life, there is no such thing as one 'should/would have done this or that before',and it will change the outcome. It does not matter which method Mr. Chiu chose, no one can guarantee the absolute results at the end. |
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Christopher is talented. But being talented does not always let one make the correct choice. The way Christopher handled the choice of therapy against his illness was not rational. I got heartaches reading all the claims of how spiritual power could cure his illness in this blog. Such atmosphere was reminiscent of the mass hysteria of our cultural revolution. However, reading these messages made me understand at least in part how Christopher might have been “supported” to stick to the irrational way. Christopher could well be alive now should he have followed the earliest advice of removing his whole urinary bladder surgically, together with the nasty portions. Of course that would have left Christopher with a “less than perfect” physical body – with his urine diverted to certain conduit and external drainage system. To take up this choice requires perhaps no less courage than to struggle through the torturing months of his terminal illness. Quality of life is important and a longer life is not necessarily better than a shorter one. However, should soul and mind be the supreme elements treasured by all the quasi-religious cults mentioned in this blog then Christopher should have chosen surgery while able to continue enjoying the spiritual nourishment and development. After all missing some of the bodily component(s) should not matter – they are just so trivially physical. I disagrees with Christopher’s choice of using “the many alternate ways” which offer the promise of saving his life while sparing his burden of living with an imperfect body. It is outrageous that, at least from what I have learnt through reading this blog, many friends/comrades are re-inforcing/promoting the belief that prayers or gatherings to gravitate the “positive forces”/ other spiritual power …. will bring Christopher “good physical health”. If it is Christopher’s wish to live longer, I would conclude that he had made some very big mistakes following these routes. His choice of not receiving early surgery was a poor one and should not be praised. Such is not a good example for those unfortunate ones who have fallen sick to clearly definable diseases to follow, despite that we continue to love Christopher as our friend, a talented guy and in many other capacities. |
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老友阿發我們天上會 我們的好朋友 趙 來 發今早 (2009.1.8) 完成了人生此段旅程 這段通告,是我們的周兆祥主席在獲知阿發拜別這段人生旅程後,馬上火速轉移原定計劃所作的決定;感恩我們有這份深厚的緣份。 昨天晚上,我把阿發幾番心血的作品“讓沉默說法”放在台上,以一顆純清的白蠟燭相伴;(記得他完成了這本書時,給我說他的幾經翻波,在電腦寫作時,不下3次down機,洋洋幾萬字,他屢次重新重新再寫再寫,鍥而不捨的精神,真是畢生難忘!)而台上的布幕張貼了以下的話: 感恩阿發新的開始 讓沉默說法 讓沉默帶領阿發光明 讓沉默送給阿發平安 讓沉默祝福阿發 有30多人出席,至少有一半以上是認識阿發的!其中有兩位稀客,他們都是獲得火速的消息而趕來,一位是黃偉德自然療法醫生(阿德),另一位是早年香港素食學會副主席陳素琴。 開始略介紹後,就與出席者一起沉默的行禪,讓大家踏實的每一步,與阿發與大地所有眾生同行,此時此刻不再是言不再是語,沒有時空的相隔。隨即開始聆聽、分享阿發生命的點點滴滴。 阿德早在源康堂時代已略有認識,他深受阿發首刊“素食宣言”所影響;老實說在那個年代,素食的確被視為奇人怪類,及後阿德到源康堂工作,阿發作為他半個上司(因為老闆是他第一任太太)。與阿發相處共事,阿德明白到阿發心懷大志,許多事很想做,尤其寫作是他的優長。雖然及後種種的轉變,阿德始終感謝感謝阿發的鼓勵,繼續開展事業。 素琴分享她的尋道,她的老師與你的印度老師Papaji相似,在分享過程中素琴提到:人生不需要過份承擔(孭)太多,她感覺阿發身心實在孭太多了,太辛苦了,也許,作為一位修行人不能不認真考慮,她說,她的老師曾探望當年病重的母親,也曾在她母親耳邊說了話。時至今天,她問老師到底當年曾向母親說什麼耳邊話?老師給素琴說,好簡單就是請她朝著光明走去。 在這時間,多多鼓勵彌溜者向著光明走,這是很重要的。 不要孭太多!素琴說,今天說來,其實世間不是要我們做好多好多事,以求改變世間,而是自我轉變心境,世事會大大不一樣!哈!這正是阿孔20年素食的原動力──不要以為“你可改變世界,先改變自己吧!” 兩位大德,心的分享他們的心話,阿孔深感何以兩位千里迢迢的稀客,又一次令阿孔降服,他們此時此刻的出現,非偶然,感恩上天有心! 我們另一位重點分享是資深會Emily,她早前已不時抽身探望,早上接獲電話,請大家送光!她已心知,在她抵達醫院時,姐姐在阿發身邊不斷叫他向著光明走!看見阿發很安祥很平靜!以下是Emily分享8號上午在醫院的感覺: 「昨日我和來自法鼓山聖嚴法師的三位佛弟子一同唸阿彌陀佛聖號迴向給阿發,助他萬緣放下,一心隨衆唸佛,往生淨土。由11:30至下午1:30,歷時足有兩小時,其間全沒有中斷。聲聲佛號,響徹房間,虔敬之情,感動天心。開始唸了約半小時後,阿發發放出放下和放鬆的感覺。再後,我感覺到滿室溫暖,佛光普照,祥和平安,在旁的家人沐浴在朗聲阿彌陀佛中,都能節哀順變,真替阿發感恩呢!」 這也是Emily生平的首次,她說,能夠有緣在Club O認識阿發至最後送他一程助唸,目睹他享著平安平靜繼續上路,實在是深厚的緣份。曾在1月3日阿發床邊祝福鼓勵他,不忘共享身邊各人對他的關愛,阿發微弱聲回應說“宇宙大愛”!這真令人感動(見阿發的網誌)。 還有Amy D’Aquino的分享,她後期看阿發的Blog,尤其在1月5日阿發寫“......不要怕......”!Amy觸動得流下滿臉熱淚,感受到阿發“放下放下”了,這份感覺非筆墨能形容。 還有阿甘分享她與媽媽的相處,以不抱怨有關愛去化解她與媽媽之間的心結,從此,她不再內責自己,只有關愛。嘩!真不簡單。 短短的不足兩小時的“阿發告別晚會”,阿發既是我們的老友,亦曾任綠色生活教育基金的理事,阿孔深深感受到上天這次出手,向我們這個被視為修行的團體一個清楚而明識的音訊,要明辨路向。 “讓沉默說法”書底有6點,很願意抄錄下來與大家共享,再作自我反思: ● 只有真我──self是唯一的真實。 寫於2009年1月9日凌晨至1月9日上午
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《信報》第一代文化版編輯、資深傳媒及文化人趙來發昨早辭世,終年五十歲。發仔臨行前三天在網誌上載「是時刻向大家可能說人生再見的時刻」,「再見了,有機會再見」,恍如餘情未了去又來,頭也不回心卻離不開。而筆者同時確認:愛,原來真的可以上載! |
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